CN salutes Andie Newberry-Tubs a former Navy brat and Navy wife. For most of her life, the Navy life was all Tubs knew. Her father was in Electronic Warfare. He was the youngest Chief in the Navy and made Master Chief (E-9) in 16 years. Here is a look into one experience of what being part of a Navy family is like.
What expected of you a military Brat?
We knew the rules, and we had to follow them.
What you like most about growing up in the military?
Seeing my dad in uniform and knowing he was respected, and important.
What are some of the greatest challenges you faced?
Leaving friends as I got older.
What was the most rewarding experience?
Learning that a move wasn’t as bad as I thought. I actually liked my high school in Florida better than the one in California. But when you’re 16, you think you’re world is falling apart.
How did your father’s service affect the family?
It was what we knew, so we just rolled with it.
What opportunities or advantages or disadvantages did you have as a Military Brat?
It helped me as a navy wife. I was able to circumnavigate my way through red tape as a navy wife when I needed things done. Having had a father who was the highest rank on the enlisted side, I could talk to officers without a problem and get things accomplished for my family while my husband was gone.
What is your advice to someone thinking about serving their country?
Serve four years, you will be giving back to your country and learn a trade that could help
What Branch did your spouse serve, did he join before or after you were married?
My former husband, served in the navy. He joined before we were married. However, we were married when he went to boot camp.
What did you like best about the Navy as a Navy wife?
I enjoyed the moving, seeing different places.
What did you like the least?
The lack of support we as families received from the Navy on a whole.
What are some of the ways wives contribute in any given branch?
First, just being at home to take care of the home, and children. No military man can do his job without the wives at home doing theirs. Secondly, I would say getting involved in a family support group.
What organizations are available to support Navy wives? I only know of two. Family support groups that go with surface ships and Seabee battalions. Family Readiness Groups that are with Subs.
What advice do you have for other wives in the military today?
First, you married him knowing his job, don’t complain. It doesn’t help, and it’s not attractive. Second, find ways to stay as busy as you can while he’s away. That is honestly the best advice.
Overall, how do you feel this experience was as you raised your family? Like any job it had it’s pros and cons. For my girls, moving from California to Hampton Roads, Virginia in 2002 was not a good move. It was the middle of my oldest daughter’s high school year, my second daughter wasn’t able to continue in the gifted and talented program because the school in VA had higher requirements, and my youngest daughter who was just making strides declined. That could’ve happened with a civilian job, they get transferred too. They got to live in Hawaii for four years, California for twelve, and the beach area of Virginia for four. I don’t think they suffered too much.
THANK YOU ANDIE NEWBERRY-TUBS FOR YOUR SERVICE OF SUPPORT AND SACRIFICE!
THANKS TO ALL OF YOU SPOUSES OUT THERE SERVING OUR COUNTRY BY SUPPORTING OUR TROOPS HERE AT HOME.
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